Making Room for Baby

Well, since we are expecting a third lil blessing fairly soon, we have been looking to find a larger vehicle.  We almost did this when I was pregnant with Kaylee but then realized it was very doable to drive our Malibu with just two kids.  Plus the car was paid off.  So we waited.

a little over two months before Kaylee was born

I'm not certain if our Malibu can handle three car seats in the back.  It is a fairly roomy vehicle.  But we have decided now we would like to get a larger vehicle.  

So we listed our Toyota Corolla for sale on various sites.  We asked people to spread the word.  And in less than a month, God brought us a buyer!!  And he brought us a private buyer who paid what we were hoping to get!! Dealerships had offered us much less.  

I really loved this car!!! So long Corolla!

I had been praying that God would make it obvious that He was orchestrating us getting another car for our family.  He began with bringing a young girl to us via Craigslist who had gotten into an accident (with a Corolla that was a year older than ours) and still had a loan.  The loan officers gave her certain parameters for her purchase of a replacement.  She had a rental car for just a few more days.  And our car fit all the loan requirements as well as her wishes.

It was a bit weird, but she actually didn't even turn the car on when we met. She briefly looked inside the windows.  That was it.  I guess we look really trustworthy?  Maybe having both girls with us at the time helped.  :)  Septtro and I were both surprised at how easy it was.  She didn't even really try to negotiate.  And because she was still making payments on her previous vehicle, everything took place at a bank - which also happened to be our bank. We got a cashier's check and I immediately deposited it into our account.  

Bye Corolla - we'll miss you!

So now we look for a van.  That's right folks.  I'm just too stinkin practical to not get a van.  And I'm SO excited!!!  

I'm also quite excited to see how the Lord will bring us the right van for our family.  We are still trying to decide which "perks" are most important.  Any of you moms out there have any advice on your favorite things on your family vehicle (doesn't have to be a van)...and possibly things you wish you did have and why??  Ri has requested a blue van with a tv.  Not sure if we will be able to pull through for her on that but guess we will see what God decides to do for us.  :)

Sucker

Ri has always loved her thumb.  I've always thought it was quite endearing.  

But alas, now we feel it's time for her to stop the habit.  She will be four in September and usually by this time, kids who use pacifiers have already given those up.  It's just a bit harder when your pacifier also happens to be your thumb.  Her dentist has asked us at the last two appointment how it's been going.  We had stopped her thumb-sucking in the car and just when she had nothing else to occupy her.  But she still did it every time she went to bed (naps and at night). So we decided to try to help her stop all together.

I wasn't trying to get there all at once.  But one day, she asked to see her chart I had printed out for her.  Then she wanted to put stickers on it.  I told her how she would earn her stickers and she agreed she wouldn't suck her thumb.

Before rest time following our discussion, I let her pick a special toy to take to bed with her.  She chose a small rubber duck.  **I know from experience that thumb suckers need something to occupy their hands/mouth when not sucking their thumb.  Perhaps this is why I eventually picked up nail biting??  :) 

The first time she went to sleep for nap time without sucking her thumb, I took her to the Dollar Tree to pick out a special price...whatever she wanted.  She chose chocolate covered raisins.  

After that, she woke up excited to tell us that she hadn't sucked her thumb each morning and afternoon after naps.  We would put another sticker on her chart and eventually told her she would earn a bigger prize if she could go three days straight.  She worked really hard for that but she did it!

I know there's really no way for us to know for sure if she's not sucking her thumb.  We can check on her but we don't have a video monitor.  And one morning before Septtro left for work, he told me she was still sleeping and sucking her thumb.  But when she got up, she told me she didn't suck her thumb.  I know she could have been lying but I also think she may subconsciously do it.  She has struggled when she went to bed later than Kaylee.  I'm not sure if that was because Kaylee usually keeps her company and occupied or if Ri was just over tired and really didn't care about stickers or prizes anymore - she just wanted the comfort of her thumb at the moment.

We aren't pushing her to quit all at once as of now and I'm about to start a new chart for her and offer another prize (I find some really good ones for cheap at a nearby thrift store).  So we will see...maybe by her 4th birthday she will no longer be a thumb sucker.

Next up: this one...

The Job That Never Ends - Part 2

So the last post has been on my mind a lot.  I've done a lot of thinking, praying, seeking, etc the past week or so.  I'm still struggling with how to balance everything.  But the Lord has been good to reveal some things to me.  Here's what I've realized and what the Lord has revealed to me:

Schedules scare me

• This is quite funny to me, actually, to come to this realization because I've always considered myself a Type A personality.  But maybe I'm not - or not as much as I thought.  Schedules scare me because life happens most times and I can't  follow or keep to a schedule and then I feel like a failure.  I set expectations to high with most schedules or get too detailed and don't allow flexibility.  I suppose I'm more of a perfectionist than Type A  ;) aka prideful

I don't like to fail - or think about failing

• I'm sort of a competitive person.  I haven't always been a huge fan of card games or board games or even video games.  Why do I think that is?  Because I might not win.  Or not do well.  So I won't even put myself in that position.  Maybe this is why I don't like schedules.  :) (again, perfectionist??)

Decisions were easy for me when I was working full-time.  My day was already planned for me.  Now...it's much different.  And I can get overwhelmed with the "freedom" of the day and knowing what to do and not to do - and how to be flexible while also having a plan.

Here's what I plan to do:

1.  Get up earlier (about an hour before I am now) at least twice a week.  Do devotions.

• This is very hard for me.  I am NOT a morning person. I don't like to talk for about the first hour after I'm out of bed.
• As I become consistent doing this twice a week, I will strive for doing it every day.  And I will give myself grace if there's a night I didn't sleep well and need that extra hour in the morning.  
• On days I'm not getting up earlier, I'll pick a verse to read with the girls during breakfast.

2.  Plan time each day to give my kids my undivided attention

• I think this will help them not get too bored and try to get my attention other, not so appropriate ways
• Because I usually don't have a plan for each day, I can easily see a million things in the house I want to do and try to complete those without spending time with just the girls - reading, playing blocks, doing puzzles, coloring, etc.

3.  Plan time each day for my kids to play on their own in some way 

4.  Plan time each day to allow myself at least one house chore besides "normal" dishes, laundry, etc

• I do still have a house to take care of.  I can involve my girls in chores as much as possible.  They already enjoy helping "fold" laundry and switching from the washer to dryer.  

5.  Talk to Septtro more about what he feels should be my goals each day and help me prioritize those

• God gave me a wonderful husband who can help take the pressure off a bit.  If what he feels is important to do each day isn't what I'm doing, then it's an easy decision!

6.  Plan for times away from the kids by myself and with Septtro

God gave me a verse and a song at church last Sunday.  Well, he's given me several verses.  But this one was Hebrews 4:16:

"Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need." (emphasis mine)

And we sang a song that really hit home with me too.  This was verse 1:

The depths of Your grace who can measure
You fully supply all I need
You restore my weary soul again and again
And lead me in Your righteousness and peace

I am honestly scared out of my mind about having another baby.  As it gets closer, I continually second-guess how I will manage it all.  I feel so lost now sometimes with just my two.  But God has equipped me with "everything that is good that I may do His will" - Hebrews 13:21a  And as I continually seek him, spend time in his Word, seek the counsel of my husband as well as other moms who have walked through this, He will grant me wisdom and peace.  And His will will be accomplished.  So I will take comfort in that.  :) I wasn't meant to figure this out on my own but it's when I try to do that when things seem to unravel.  

So...time for some changes!!

Beach Time!

We went to the beach during spring break this year.  We have gone with my parents and brother's family ever since Ri and Emmory were babies.  Ri absolutely loves everything about the beach.  Kaylee loved the sand and pretty much stayed away from the water.  (it was very cold, to her credit)

The weather wasn't great but this was the first year it was cold for almost the entire time.  But the kids still enjoyed themselves and so did we!!

Here are some of my favorite shots!

view from the front porch - can't beat that!

all the cousins on the front porch swing!

growing up so fast!

we went to Charleston one morning

she didn't understand why she couldn't pick up the cannon balls

lil land lover

everybody!

our family!

pure joy!

on a rainy day we went to the aquarium

Baller

Rilynn started tball this Spring.  I'm not sure yet if she will take to it - she seems to be a lot more interested in the arts, especially marching bands.  But the arts are A LOT more expensive.  So we started with tball.  :)

first game - she chose her number :)

Her games are always at 6pm so that's made it a bit tricky for dinner.  Septtro is coaching track for a few more weeks so game days aren't really my favorite as far as dinner is concerned.  And I'm not sure the younger ones will be as fortunate to be involved in activities so early.  I can't imagine taking three kids to separate fields at different times, much less separate events!  :|

the most important part - snacks after the game (with her cousin)

I'm pretty sure they did this by themselves - sweet cousins!

second at-bat she hit it on the first try!

The Job That Never Ends

I get to stay home each day with my girls.  I'm so thankful!  I've always wanted to be home with my kids.  

But there are periods of time when I get overwhelmed, stressed out, and quite honestly feel like a big ol failure.

Allow me to elaborate.

Before I had kids, I worked full-time.  I didn't love my job but I didn't hate it.  It paid the bills and allowed us to do some extra things.  I remember imagining what it would be like when I had a baby and I was, Lord-willing, at home....

I'd sip on coffee and stare out into the backyard (wish the beach was my backyard) while my very content and perfect baby played on their own until I finished my perfect morning moment.  I could do whatever I wanted.  The whole day was mine!  I would have a lot of time to clean my house and organize things, prepare delicious meals for my family, run errands, and even catch up on some old shows.

But then I realized, being at home all day with kids isn't as freeing as I thought.  I still had a job to do.  A different job.  And one I do absolutely love and am thankful for.  But I don't get off at 5:00.  And I don't get vacation days.  I'm constantly surrounded by my job - all day, every day.  And...I'm just being honest...sometimes it all gets overwhelming.  Sometimes, I don't want to do my job anymore - or at least for a day.  

my messy child

I've tried to figure out what it is that's lacking most times I feel this way.  For the most part, I think it's just lack of joy and my own selfishness.  I forget what gifts my children are and that they aren't interruptions.  I get upset that I can't do certain house chores exactly when I want or when there seem to be too many messes to clean up or that there's always clothes to sort through, or when a certain child just can't seem to get her shoes on fast enough...etc etc.  

On the flip side, I do believe moms need some time to themselves and away from the kids.  I guess I just need to find a balance of the two.  Maybe I should ask for a specific night or afternoon for myself every so often and then an evening with just my husband also.  Besides when Kaylee was born, I haven't been away from Rilynn - my oldest - overnight.  I think I'm due for a vacation - a real vacation from my particular job.  No kids.  Especially before this new baby comes and I begin nursing again, I want to take advantage of some time away - for myself and also with my husband. 

Any suggestions??  :)

Also, I'm assuming I'm not alone in this struggle.  I think part of my issue is I have no schedule.  Schedules stress me out because things happen that prevent me from doing what's on "my list" sometimes and then I feel like a failure.  But then there's no plan for my days - not even a loose plan.  Plus Kaylee is too young to do most things Rilynn can do and if she can, she quickly loses interest.  And then I'm about to have a baby again which will throw any schedule out the window at least temporarily.  

So...I think I need to make a change of some sort.  Just not quite sure where to start.  Well, except for being more consistent in spending time with the Lord before interacting with my girls...I have noticed that does make a difference.  

oh how I love them and am truly thankful to be their mom!

Sticks and Stones

You know how it goes..."sticks and stones may break my bones but words can/will never hurt me"

What a load of garbage. 

Sure, I recited this as a child.  Hoping, in some way, it would actually come true.  But it never did.  Even now, words hurt.  And in this season of my life, I can be a bit extra sensitive to the words of others.  But that doesn't change the fact that they shouldn't be said.

Pregnancy is amazing!  And I'd like to say I love being pregnant.  I mean, I do.  But I think I have let too many people steal my joy.  For the most part, I have pretty easy pregnancies.  Of course I have times where I feel badly and only want to stay in bed but overall, I do fairly well physically considering what others go through.

But then people make comments.  And it hurts.  And I know they don't mean to.  But it doesn't change the fact that it still hurts.  And then I become self-conscious.  And then I'm not proud of my body as it changes to accomodate and give life to another. I carry big.  And I have big babies.  That's just the genetic hand I was given.

I stumbled across a book at Barnes and Noble and found this:

She may not have worded it quite like I would have, but I could totally relate.

Allow me to let you in on a little secret: women (most I know anyway) are already pretty self-conscious about their body.  And when things start happening that we have very little control over while pregnant, it can become a bit overwhelming.  

So here's a word of advice: if you wouldn't make the same comment to a non-pregnant woman, then don't say it to a pregnant woman!  

And in the mean time, I'll try to do better at being more proud of my body that is growing new life and less concerned about what others think about me or my pregnant body.  

18 week belly

Where is Spring??

We typically have mild winters - sometimes we see some snow but it's usually not cold very long here.  But it's been unseasonably cold (across the country I believe??) and I'm SO READY for warm weather!

It has been rainy, cloudy, and/or cold the past several days.  And we are leaving for the beach this week (yay!!) so it'd be nice to have some warm weather.

I was going through pictures yesterday and realized at this time last year, I got out the pool for the girls because it was so hot!  This was exactly a year ago today (keep in mind we have well water so it's VERY cold water):

But we have been lucky the past several days to even go without a jacket outside because it's been so cold!

C'mon Spring!!!!!!!!!

20 Week Ultrasound

I had to reschedule my ultrasound appointment from last week to this week because Septtro had a meeting he couldn't get out of last week.  So we went today.  And...




It's a....

BABY!!!  ;)

We made it through without finding out the gender, although it was a bit difficult to look away knowing what the tech was looking at!

The ultrasound went really well.  Everything looked great!!  The heart rate was 152 - about the same as last time.  We told the tech ahead of time that we didn't want to know the gender.  She told us she found out with one of hers and didn't with the other and liked not knowing better. 

sweet little foot

She told us when to look away and I felt like it was FOREVER!  She had to measure legs and lower spine and all so it took several minutes.  The girls came with us and they were able to look.  We asked Ri what she saw.  She said "teeth" when the tech was looking at the spine and "eyes" when she looked at the bladder.  :) 

A nice surprise is when she turned on the 3D/4D for us.  I was gonna ask anyway since it's just a flip of a switch but she did it before I could ask.  It's SO amazing to see God's creation being fearfully and wonderfully made!

 

We are very close to being sure on a name for a boy and a girl - much improvement since Kaylee wasn't named until about an hour before we left the hospital.  :)  We are keeping the name private between just the two of us. 

I'm feeling the baby move more and more - and LOVE it.  I actually felt the baby move from the outside for the first time just this past week! There's nothing like feeling life inside of you!!  The tech confirmed baby was head down.  I have been feeling stronger movements at the top of my belly so I figured baby was head down.  Of course, he/she could move several times between now and when I go into labor. 

We can't wait to meet you little baby!!  Boy or girl - you are cherished and loved already!!

ER Visit and Water Fight

We made our first visit to the emergency room with a child yesterday.  While at a friend's house, Kaylee fell off a fairly high bed onto the floor.  She split her lip completely through.  And I must admit, I got a bit light headed initially.  

She actually didn't act like she was in pain or anything after I was able to calm her down and clean her off a bit.  We ate lunch - since it happened around 11:00 - while trying to decide whether I should take her somewhere to be seen.

A good friend of ours is a family doctor so I texted him a picture and he recommended she be seen since it was completely split.  He also recommended the ER in case they needed to do conscious sedation in order to stitch it up. (I did call her doctor and was told the same thing)

**Momma did not like hearing that part

I tried to convince myself maybe we didn't need to go.  But my friend helped me decide that we probably should.  So off we went.

I thought maybe the wait at the ER wouldn't be that bad.  It was a smaller hospital and it was the middle of the day so people with flu or cold symptoms would go to their regular doctor right?

Wrong.  They were SLAMMED!  And slammed full of people who had colds and flu like symptoms.  I know I'm a bit hormonal these days but it really was quite irritating to have people there for things they could have gone to a regular doctor for...cause trust me, if we could have gone elsewhere, we would have!

Anyway, after a total of 4 1/2 hours, we were done.  We were there so long, Septtro was able to come right before they stitched her up.  I was afraid I'd lose it when Kaylee got upset.  But I actually did surprisingly well - praise God!  I even watched him do the stitching.  :)  They did have to wrap her up in a "papoose" as they called it - it was a lot like a bigger swaddle blanket so she would be still.  At that point I think she was so exhausted she didn't struggle much at all.  I was thankful they didn't have to do any sedation!

thank goodness for smart phones in these situations!

She only got one stitch.  He said he could have done two but because of the location of the injury, it would have been extremely irritating and he thought just one would be fine.  Unfortunately, the stitches don't dissolve.  So I will have to take her to her doctor to get them removed.  Hopefully that won't be a big deal.  

Today has been pretty low-key.  We have been home all day and I've gotten to catch up on some housework while the girls played together.  
I wanted to give Kaylee a bath right away after leaving the hospital and I probably should have since there were so many people there with flu-type symptoms.  But we were all tired when we got home.

So the girls got a bath before nap time today...in our bathtub.  It's like a small pool to them.

A water fight soon broke out.  The girls were cackling and laughing so much I couldn't bear to ask them to stop all the splashing.  At least not at first.  :)  

Have a fun weekend ya'll!!  ;)

18 Week Baby Update

Ok so I didn't give an update to my last baby post.  There's just one in there, thank goodness!  :)

We didn't get a lot of really fun pictures. She only gave us one of the baby looking directly at us - which always seems the most alien-ish to me.  Also, I was measuring right on track!

I had another appointment this past Friday and it went great.  I'm still very guarded with the midwives just because of my previous experiences with my providers.  But they have been so fabulous!  Both times, they've sat right next to me, put paperwork down, and just talked.  I feel like our relationship will be so much better than with previous ones.  

18 weeks!

One really encouraging thing from my last appointment was I asked to skip the GTT (glucose tolerance test) and monitor my sugars for a few days to a week on the food I'm already eating.  My last provider said I'd have to do this for the rest of my pregnancy, which I couldn't afford.  The supplies are expensive!  But I have leftover supplies; enough to monitor for a week, maybe more.  They were super cool about it and even said they didn't want me to feel "boxed in" with the GTT.  So I'll monitor a week before my next appointment.  I had explained at my previous appointment that I felt I was, at the very least, misdiagnosed with gestational diabetes with my last pregnancy and she was really open and understanding about my feelings. (wondering more about my feelings on the subject?  see my posts from when I was pregnant with Kaylee here and here)

So it seems this prenatal experience will be a lot less stressful and, dare I say, more pleasant?  :) 

I've been feeling the baby move more and more which is always fun.  When she found the heartbeat, she said the baby was moving all over the place.  Heart rate was in low 150s again.

Our "big" ultrasound is the 13th - next Wednesday.  We are still planning not to find out the gender.  I'll actually be glad when the appointment is over because I think it's going to be very hard to know that I could know the gender but choose not to find out....especially because I'm such a planner.  :)  But I do wanna wait.  I think it will be a nice surprise at the end of labor.  Hopefully this time we will get some better pictures of the baby!

In other news, Septtro quickly put up Ri's hair the other day when she was sick.  And it was SO cute. I tried it again the next day and I like it. I may stop brushing it out as much.